ok, i paced my girlfriend thru driving stick when she first got her car, and she's a freakin animal when it comes to driving stick now... so I think I can help you.
However, I must stress, that although these guidlines are just that, guidlines, the same principal applies in every car... although getting to know 'your' car is the true hurdle to clear, and nothing is a replacement for experience.
First off put yourself in a place where there is no traffic, that way you can concentrate on learning the motions of clutch, gas, brake, shift, and not on avoiding moving obstacles or pedestrians. Preferably, late at night on an empty neighborhood street devoid of parked cars and lots of stop signs/ turns.
Basically, my driving stick 101 program goes thru the following phases, all very important and reliant upon the previous. No steps can be skipped, as it hinders the performance of the preceeding step.
1) starting from a stop
a. getting to know your engagement point
b. getting moving
6 challenegs
c. hills and inclines
2) shifting
a. regular shifting
b. downshifting
c. speed shifting
3) cornering
a. downshifting to slow before a corner
b. downshifting while in a corner
c. rev matching/ heel toe
4) Launching
here's just the first 2...
1) Starting from a stop
a. getting to know your 'engagement point'
First, get in your car. Adjust your seat so you sit comfortably and can see over the dash. Now, make sure you can push the clutch in all the way to the floor.
( In this tutorial, putting the clutch "in" means to the floor, and letting the clutch "out" means lifting up off the pedal completely.)
Now that we're sitting comfortably, the first step to getting to know your car is finding the clutch's "engagement point". Engagement is where the clutch has no more free play, and starts to engage the flywheel. You should be able to feel this thru the pedal, and also this is the point where the car begins to move forward. Also, your lights will dim slightly and rpms will drop slightly as well.
Without hitting the gas VERY SLOWLY lift your clutch foot up until you start to feel the clutch grab and move the car. Again, rpms will drop slightly and the lights will dim slightly. This is your ENGAGEMENT POINT. MEMORIZE THIS POSITION as this is where you will need to lift your foot to when starting from a stop, as well as a few other key areas (see -> shifting)
b. getting moving
Now that we've found our engagement point, we now know where the clutch grabs and begins to move the car. Now we can start practicing moving from a stop. This is one of the more difficult things to master when beginning on stick, however my steps will make it much much easier.
Your clutch foot and throttle foot must always be inverses of one another in order for smooth engagement of the clutch and flywheel. as your clutch comes up, the throttle should go down, and vice versa...
Firstly, push the clutch all the way in, and put the car into 1st gear (You may have to fight the car if its a 2000+ jbody... this is normal). Now, rev your car up to about 2000 RPMs, careful the engine will be touchy to throttle input. Now, get your clutch foot up to the engagement point. You will start to feel the car move forward, and revs will drop as it moves forward. DO NOT LET THE CLUTCH OUT ANYMORE THAN THE ENGAGEMENT POINT UNTIL YOUR SPEED IS ABOVE 10 - 15MPH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! use more throttle to get the speed up. After you pass the 10- 15 MPH mark, you can let the clutch out the rest of the way, but remember you must be smooth... you cannot just let off right away the car will buck.
THIS is the problem that many new drivers make when learning stick. TOO much clutch will stall out the engine. The engagement point is where you want to be to get moving fast, without burning out or stalling the engine.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT! practice, practice, practice then practice MORE. Getting to know that engagement point without thinking about it is the secret to driving smooth and well. Set yourself up in makeshift traffic situations. Here's your challeneges:
1) get the car moving
2) get the car moving without bucking
3) get the car moving without bucking, rpms dropping, or lights dimming
4) get the car moving without everything in #3, within 8 seconds
5) get the car moving without everything in #3, within 4 seconds
6) get the car moving without everything in #3, within 2 seconds
now you're set in a straight line. Next is going up hills.
Repeat all the steps above, 1-6, but on a hill with a stop sign at the top. Roll up to the stop sign, come to a complete stop, then get the car moving without rolling backwards more than 2 feet. The engagement point is the key to hills.
2. Shifting
a. regular shifting
Before any advanced techniques, lets focus on getting into the next gear without breaking anything. First, get the car rolling. Around 3000rpm, push the clutch in and let off the gas at the same time. Remember, the clutch and gas should always be inverses of one another. Pull the shifter straight down into 2nd gear. Then, using the same inverse principal, get back into the throttle. Practice the 1-2 shift until you can do it seamlessly. All following gears follow the same principal, however speed will be greater since you're climbing thru the gears. Practice these until you can do it smoothly before advancing onto the next shifting technique.
b. downshifting
Downshifting is when you select the next lowest gear and utilize the engine to slow down the car without braking. When doing so, drag the clutch slowly so the engine can climb to the rpm needed to match the transmission speed. This will slow the car dramatically depending on how high the RPMs must climb.
Rev matching is a downshifting technique that allows a seemless match between engine and transmission. Before letting the clutch out, 'blip' the throttle to get the engine to climb to the rpm before letting the clutch out. When doing this properly, the downshift will be much faster, and slow the car down more quickly, and will not upset traction when driving the car on the brink of losing control. This is an advanced technique, and I don't suggest trying it until you're more comfortable behind the wheel.
c. speed shifting
Speed shifting is when you want to accelerate as fast as possible. This is a bit more risky than regular shifting since the margin for error is much smaller and grinding gears is of greater possibility. As you accelerate with the gas to the floor and get ready to shift into the next gear, (the RPM you choose to shift at is up to you) push the clutch down ONLY TO THE ENGAGEMENT POINT as you get there, pull on the stick you should feel it happily jump out of gear and jump into the following gear. As soon as you get into the next gear, get back into the gas and let the clutch out with the same inverse principal. The smoother and faster the shift, the more rapidly you'll accelerate.
these again are only the basics... if I were in the car with you, I could teach you much better. but dont be discouraged if it takes you a while to learn these techniques. Expect to spend about an hour per section if you are a real perfectionist. There's many more things to go over, but this is just a basic overview of what you need to drive in everyday situations.